Sunday, December 2, 2012

Dating and commonality

Through out the years i've been in several relationships and dating relationships. And i wish i can say that I no longer need to date. I'm currently single and getting older is making it harder and harder to meet people. I tend to search guys that are  8-10 years older than me.

And from all my experiences on picking who to date... some one the most important thing to me was culture and food. Culture as in  The person is willing to explore new culture, travel, open minded about learning the quirks and tradition of each culture.. or mine in particular. Second is food. Meaning the person would be open minded or adventurous about trying out new food/ cuisine.

Culture.... being chinese it's certainly hard dating caucasian. Most caucasian guys are not so into culture, or the mumbo jumbo of Feng Shui.. or eastern medicine. It was hard explaining why i can't buy a house that has a tree in the path of the front foor. Or have stairs going straight up from the front door. Or food related... Not having your stove across from your sink. Why? you might ask....

well the tree on the front door path is supposedly is a substance that is blocking your chi or your fortune to come into your house. And the staircase not be going straight up as soon as you come in from the front door, it's because we believe that fortune would be hard to go up the stairs.. instead of just flowing into the house..

And as for food... i believe it has something to do with commonality. I've gone on a date one time where i had to find out through the conversation that the guy doesn't like a lot of things i eat. When i asked him :" what don't you eat?" he replied:" i don't eat mushrooms, corn, pork, soy, or seafood. LOL.... if i could be rude... i would be standing up and say nice meeting you... but i didn't... i stayed through the whole dinner date and find out what more he doesn't like. When i heard he doesn't eat all those.. i was like: oh brother... i can't make my corn succotash that i'm famous for. I can't make chipotle like Corn salsa.. I can't cook anything that has mushrooms... no pork dishes... carnitas of any kind.. no seafood???? i love sushi.. as raw as it comes!! so... it this mean we could never go for sushi? hmm no Newport Tan cang Seafood??? that's going to be impossible.... no soy at all? so no Korean tofu soup? or soy milk? i'm lactose intollerant?  Good Golly... what do i do.. IF THE ONE doesnt eat all that... is that mean i'll have to make 2 dishes for every meal??

Speaking of that.. my mom's friend ( 2 of them)  who was Taiwanese... One married a muslim  and another one married a German. the one married a muslim converted into muslim and never eat pork again.  And the one that is married to a German... had to stop eating hot food and make cold food for dinner.. because apparently they only eat cold cuts... I know i know... you're going that's extreme... or i'm sure the German guy eat some Kartoffeln ( potato in german)...  i'm just sayings he told me her friend had to prepare 2 dishes, cold and hot.. so they can sit together on a dinner table.

marriage or dating is already hard as it is... having food not in common or not be open minded about it.. would make it harder.

I don't eat the following: Peas, lentil, beans... I love Indian food, When i go to have indian food..  i  tend to not pick any of the lentil or chickpeas or those type of dishes. But i will eat Rasam soup. Which is basically ground lentils with tamarind...

So i can't explain to you why i do and don't eat lentils a certain way... I'm guessing it's texture.. when it's blended and i can't tell it's lentil and i taste Tamarin instead lentil, i'm ok.

or when i went to Cafe Hiro ( japanese/ french) fusion.. where they served cream pea soup... i was devouring that soup to the last drop... because i can't taste peas... all BUtter!!!  lol..

so beans.. When i go to Taco San pedro  (local hole on the wall place) or other mexican joint i would have to order saying " Burrito de Lengua, con todo... sin frijoles, Por Favor!"

and i ONLY eat beans.. when it's in desserts... Mung bean, red beans in dessert!! come on!! i'm asian aren't I?  ROFL....


so the bottom line is.. I am hoping to find someone who loves steak, game meat, vegetables, seafood of all kinds... cook or raw..  who is  ok with my that i don't eat peas, beans, lentils or potatoes..  but i'm willing to try their version of the dish at least once...

I did find that guy recently... too bad it's the right guy at the wrong time in his life...  I sure hope that soon he'll see that i'm the one for him.. i can't make him see it for now... but once grass is no longer greener on the other pasture... He'll come back to me... maybe.

:)

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